Babies

The early days of breastfeeding can be a mix of ups and downs, with some confusion, small successes, and moments of bonding. Having support and understanding can really affect how you feel about the whole experience.

Breastfeeding doesn’t always go smoothly. The experience can vary from person to person, and even feed to feed. Candice Amorim, a registered nurse and lactation specialist at Mediclinic, says many new parents struggle with the unpredictable nature of it. “One of the most common challenges is not knowing exactly how much milk your baby is getting at each feed. While we try to suggest feeding patterns, every baby is different, and this uncertainty can feel overwhelming.”

Those first weeks can be particularly tricky. Breastfeeding babies generally lose about 10% of their birth weight initially, getting back to their birth weight between 10 to 14 days, Candice explains. “This is completely normal, but it often worries new parents who think their baby might not be getting enough milk.”

How your partner might react to breastfeeding

Some partners dive straight in, while others need time to find their feet, says Candice. “We see partners who really embrace their supporting role. They make sure mom and baby are comfortable, stay close during feeds, help with winding, and handle nappy changes. This hands-on approach helps create a positive feeding environment."

But not everyone finds it easy at first, Candice explains. “When moms and babies struggle with feeding, partners often feel a bit lost. It's natural to want to fix things quickly, but this can sometimes add to everyone’s stress levels.”

What can my partner do to help?

“Partners often worry they’ll feel left out. But taking on various supporting roles creates lovely moments for bonding while making the whole breastfeeding journey smoother,” Candice says.

If you’re not sure how your partner can support you while you’re breastfeeding, here are her practical suggestions:

During night feeds:

  • Be the first to get up and change baby’s nappy before bringing them to you for feeding.
  • Arrange pillows and make sure you’re comfortable.
  • Keep you company during those tough 3am feeds.
  • Take care of burping and settling afterwards.

During the day:

  • Make sure your water bottles are full and close by.
  • Have snacks ready that you can grab with one hand.
  • Take charge of washing the pump parts and storing expressed milk.
  • Set up feeding stations around the house with muslins, nursing pads and anything else you need.

Beyond the practical stuff

Being emotionally present matters just as much as practical support, Candice explains. “Partners can really help by understanding what a big job breastfeeding is. Sometimes just sitting together during feeds, offering encouragement, and being there through the tough bits can prevent you from feeling alone.”

Even though your partner can’t do the actual feeding, they can help ensure both you and the baby feel cared for. Working together like this not only helps breastfeeding get off to a good start but also brings you closer as a family during these special early days.

Remember that breastfeeding takes time to get the hang of, and every mom and baby finds their own way. Your partner’s steady support during this journey can make the world of a difference.