A divorce or breakup has the ability to catapult us into unexplored, and frightening,
physical and mental territory. The process can also turn once solid daily
responsibilities and schedules, relationships with friends and family, and even identities into a mish-mash of blurred
There is great uncertainty about the
future, and you ask yourself questions such as: Was it my fault? How will my
life be without him or her? Am I able to find someone else? Does this mean I am
destined to be alone forever?
These questions also run a racket with your mental state and leave you trapped in a listless slump.
As you wallow in self-pity, you may even be
asking yourself how long it takes to get over a breakup or divorce.
takes time, but not that long
We have it on good authority that it
actually takes about a year and a half (17 months and 26 days) to move on.
According to a survey of 4,000 divorcees by a British dating website www.fifties.com, that's the time it takes to put to be touchy topics such as property, child
and pet custody, and money worries.
But this was just the tip of the proverbial
iceberg for most of the respondents.
At least six out of every 10 said a severe
sense of failure was one of the major issues that weighed them down. So severe,
in fact, that an estimated 5% still couldn’t move on after a number of years,
let alone the suggested 17 months and 26 days.
The www.fifties.com survey reports that a fifth
of the subjects admitted they'll never really get over their divorce, while
55% confided how it was the worst thing they’d ever experienced.
We understand how difficult it is to
recover from a breakup or divorce, but we also know the importance of
reminding yourself that you must move on.
And come on now! The dust has settled and
you and your ex are on a ... Read more